Koreans love mini-series. I don’t know what it is, but something about have a more in depth look into the characters while having closure to the story appeals to me. I dare anyone not to cry during a Korean min-series. My favorite one is called “Autumn Sonata” about a girl who was switched at birth, and then switched back to her birth mother at the age of 10 to later grow up to fall in love with the boy she knew as her brother when they were children. Oh and she has Leukemia, and her ex-brother’s rich best friend is in love with her too.
So back to my mini-series — a continuation of Uncle Kracker’s “Follow Me” lyrics as the perfect summation of Fred and me…
Follow me, everything is alright
I’ll be the one to tuck you in at night
And if you want to leave, I can guarantee
You won’t find nobody else like me
When I met Fred, there were a lot of things in my life that were not all right… My parents were going through very rocky marital troubles that often left me right in the middle of their arguments. My relationship with my dad as a result was very strained, and that left me very confused about… well everything. My life’s priorities were dictated to me and my life felt like it was being crushed inside the fists of absolute control.
In the mindset I was in, I was ready to follow the devil himself if he promised me freedom. But somehow I had lucked out. Instead of the devil, Fred was there to catch me from falling into a fate much worse than hell, and lead me to a life of light and happiness. And instead of pulling me forcefully into a preordained direction, he led me with tenderness and I gladly followed.
We kept a very close relationship even though he worked nights and I lived out in the suburbs. He bought me a cell phone so we could talk every night. If anyone out there knows Fred, they know he hates talking on the phone. He’s a one minute, get your point across, see you later type of talker on the phone. But for some reason, even that changed for him when it came to talking to me. We would talk for hours on the phone — all through the night, every day. And every night he would tuck me into bed within the gentle folds of his words.
As we moved forward in our relationship, and things were obviously headed in the direction of love, I had resisted. I resisted because there were so many things about him that didn’t fit the ideal that I had been brought up to accept. He wasn’t a Korean Doctor. He wasn’t a 6 foot tall Ken doll. He was far from being a chivalrous knight. But every time I would resist love he would say those exact words from the Uncle Kracker song, “I can guarantee you won’t find anybody else like me.” And it was true. It is true. I have travelled the world and looked with my own eyes… Fred is definitely one of a kind!